Friday, November 9, 2007
I look sick?
Since when is it OK to tell someone they look sick? I mean, I know that when I'm sick, I look sick, but why can't we just leave it at that? Why do people who hardly know me think it's OK to tell me that? Yesterday I was sick... well, I still am today. So, my students last night at my class decided that everyone needed to tell me I either looked sick or tired. Let me tell you, I got sick and tired real quick of hearing that. I think that the only time I would say something to someone was if I knew them real well. And even then, it would be something more like, "You look like you're not feeling too well." Is this a cultural thing, since everyone who's said something is Hispanic? No, I take that back, one was an African-American guy. I think the reason it bugs me so much is that I already feel like crap, and now people are telling me I look like crap, too. I know that's not necessarily what they mean, but that's how it comes across. Is all of this normal?
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3 comments:
I agree, Amber. Just the other day I heard someone say the same thing (to someone else), and I thought to myself, "Wow, that was rude!" It probably comes from a sense of concern and wanting to say something empathetic, but it just comes across the wrong way. So, I'm with you. Find a way to be sensitive or shut up. :)
Here, here!
I always try to say, " I can tell that you don't feel like yourself today, are you okay?" Is that any better. For some reason I feel the need to acknowledge that you aren't feeling well, just to say that I know you well enough to know that you don't feel well. Hmm...maybe I am that annoying person! -S
no, Sara, that's fine to say it that way. I would SO much rather hear it that way than just "you look sick."
As Shawn said, find a way to be sensitive, or shut up! Lol
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